Vonfuse(d) Me

Verbindlichkeit is a mysterious german word. It can mean something so precise in german, yet there is no proper english translation for it. One could say that it is a problem I suffer from.

For me, it is important to have a sense of this Verbindlichkeit with anyone close to me. That involves knowing you can trust one another, but also that you have certain obligations to value that trust. Verbindlichkeit means letting the other person know that there is an understanding of terms, that if both have agreed on something, they can value this agreement - and this agreement can be anything at all. I call it Verbindlichkeit that I would always call my grandma if I have been at her place and come back the 300km, just to let her know that I am safe because I told her I would call.

If I want to find Verbindlichkeit where I expect it and cannot find it, it often upsets me. Maybe that is my problem for seeking it in the first place. But often I feel this world could do with a little more of it between all of us, it would make many things a little easier.

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